Hello atacrossroads and welcome to you.
We had a star member, jgnat, who had been on for 13 years, with almost 25,000 posts. She was very level headed, kind, thoughtful, loving and had a brilliant mind. I am sure she would have posted something positive and up building for you.
i think you are a very brave and honest individual and I am sorry that your awakening to WT lies, has caused sorrow to you and your husband. Just know that you are not alone and keep posting for there are people here who have been in your shoes. It is summer time, so some might be on vacation. There is a search engine in the upper right hand corner. Maybe do some searching for past threads and comments that pertain to your situation.
Kind regards to you.
LL